Way of Treating lie

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Source of lie Lie in exceptional cases

Taking into account the factors effective on formation of this attribute and its rooting, treatment procedure will be relatively clear, and in general for treating this moral deviation, we shall take following actions:

1- First of all, the liars should be informed about the painful consequences as well as spiritual, material, individual and social ill effects of this unfavorable vice, and it should be evaluated through meditation and thinking in Quran verses and traditions of great leaders of religion and aforementioned analyses and speeches of the great men that assumptive benefits of lie never counterweigh with such a lot of disadvantages.

Moreover, the liars should be warned that if in some cases, lie has a personal benefit, it is temporary and very transitory, because no capital for a man in the society, in any condition and any rank,–is higher than the capital of people's trust and confidence on him, and the greatest enemy of this capital is lie.

It is noteworthy that some suppose that it is possible for a man to say some lies, never being disclosed and causing people's distrust.

But this is a big mistake because experience has shown that in most cases, the untruthfulness of a liar is made clear, and its point is that any event has different relations with time, place, individuals and other events. One who wants to create an event, not externally existing, with his tongue, creates only one discrete event from among all other relations, and if he is very sharp and smart, he may already think about some other lies around it, and link the main false event with those events.

However, he can never predict all possible relations with all other events, and consider their connections. So, most often after several questions, he fails to justify his speeches.

For example, consider the interesting judgement of Imam Ali A.S. about the young man whose father had traveled with a lot of wealth together with some people, and when returning, his companions claimed for his death. The accused persons, who were in fact the murderers of that young man's father, were disgraced very soon after Imam A.S. asked them several questions about the details of disease, death, shrouding and burying, as they had colluded for all together saying that he has become sick and died, but they had not colluded for where, what time of day and who has made ablution, and has shrouded, and has performed funeral prayer, and actually they could not collude for all of these matters.

On this account, even the lie of the sharpest liar may be disclosed through a simple inspection.

Specially, the false and artificial relations, which a man creates for his lies, are not kept in his mind properly, because they are untrue, and if the liar is asked in different intervals, he involves in self contradiction and confusion, and this contradiction is one of the other factors for disclosing their lie. If it is commonly said that a liar does not have a good memory, it may refer to the fact that whatever his memory may be strong, it is not possible for a liar to memorize everything!

2- Personification - One of the most effective ways of treating lie, is developing individuals' personality, because as we know, one of the important mental causes of lie is feeling inferiority and low personality, and in fact lying is a kind of reaction for compensating it.

If the liars feel that they possess powers and talents through developing of which they can increase their own value and personality, they do not find any need for resorting to lie for developing a false personality in themselves.

Moreover, they should be realized that social value of a truthful man who has succeeded to attract public confidence through this moral virtue, is beyond all values, and his great spiritual capital of social reputation is the highest capital, with which no material capital can countervail, and he can provide all material facilities for himself using this capital.

Such person, not only is respected by people, but also enjoys a rank among the martyrs and prophets because in Quran the rank of truthful people is mentioned besides the rank of prophets and martyrs, where it says:

وَ مَنْ یُطِعِ اللهَ وَ الرَّسُولَ فَاُولئِکَ مَعَ الَّذِینَ اَنْعَمَ اللهُ عَلَیْهِمْ مِنَ النَّبِیِّینَ وَ الصِّدِّیقِینَ وَ الشُّهَداءِ وَ الصّالِحِینَ وَ حَسُنَ اُولئِکَ رَفِیقاً).

Whosoever obeys God, and the Messenger, they are with those whom God has blessed, Prophets, the truthful, martyrs, the righteous; good companions they are.(1)

The famous scholar, Ragheb, in his book, Mofradat has narrated several meanings for truthful all proving this fact:

a- One who always says the truth.

b- One who never lies.

c- One who is truthful in his speech and idea, and his action proves his truthfulness.

3- Endeavor for strengthening foundations of belief in God in the heart of liars and notifying this fact to them that God's power is beyond all powers, and He is able to solve all problems for which weak faith individuals resort to lie.

The reliance point of truthful people when facing different events is God, and liars are alone in such cases.

4- The motives of lie and roots of this moral deviation including avarice, fear, self-conceit, excessive love and hatred and such like should be eradicated so that this dangerous vice can not find a favorable culture for its development in man.

5- The educational and association environments of liars should be cleaned from other liars so that gradually, according to the principle of imitation and impressibility, their own existence is purified of this vice.

This is so critical that it is narrated from Imam Ali A.S. in Islamic educational instructions:

«لا یَصْلُحُ الْکَذِبُ جِدٌّ وَ لا هَزْلٌ وَ لا اَنْ یَعِدَ اَحَدُکُمْ صَبِیَّهُ ثُمَّ لا یَفِی لَهُ».

Lying is not proper, either for joke or seriously, and also it is not proper that one of you give a promise to his child, and then do not fulfill it.(2)

It goes without saying that if parents are accustomed to truthfulness (even in giving small promises to their children), their child will never be a liar.


1- Women sura (4), verse 69
2- Horre Ameli, Vassaelo Shiite, 577/8

 

 

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